Ah, it's been a while since i last blogged. had too much on my mind i wanted to share or blurt out which brought me back to blogging. craving to blog due to chong chyi's and carol's interesting blogs. it's been bothering me for quite a bit. Something's wrong with me lately. Late night outings, drinking alcohol , insomnia, headache, need for company especially guys. Thus, expressing myself here might help. Well.... hopefully. Probably due to heavy load of assignments and midterm exams. Final sem exams coming up as well. but i can't tell u enough about how much im wanting the semester break to start. looking forward to meeting my good ol' buddies. missing them a lot.
it's just the start of the day and i haven't any interesting happenings of today to type about. i'll just share a little thought on what i've experienced with guys. i've dated guys of different species types. From nerds to players. From school stars to school dropouts. i've been played for at least 3 times, not to forget being dumped a day before VAL's day. almost raped twice, which thankfully did not occur. The one kind i've not quite had were the gentle and sentimental ones. it would be nice to be paid attention to once in a while. i've just had a break up almost 5 months ago. and boy, was i blind and naive. i guess i can categorize him under the "lala and ah beng" species. trust me, don't date them if you intend to have a LOYAL and long lasting relationship. your chances are 2 out of 100 that it will last and is worth your time.
One funny incident i've had back in 2004 while dating one of my ex-es was that he asked me for sex, which back then i made an excuse of saying im a christian and did not want to get involved in it. his pathetic answer was, "scared what? scared Jesus see? we do in the dark lah.. Jesus can't see." of course i broke off with him after that. due to dating this guy, my next bf thought i was sexable more than open-minded and wanted to get physical with me. and yes, i dumped him after that. guys can be cruel wolves. it's rare (chances of 15%) to find AVAILABLE guys that will love you for who u are n not for lust. the nicest guys are mostly taken (not talking about married men here. excludes our dads). call me if you’re one the the 15%. See why i'd rather be single? i don't say i regret having dated jerks in the past, because i'll always keep in mind what one of my bestfriends told me, "You need to date a lot of jerks before you get to meet THE ONE". i agree with that because it opens up the naive side of me and through experience, i get to know what's true love in a sense that i'll know if he really means what say and do for me. For now, i'll just go with the flow and what comes naturally. no more jerks for the moment. =)
i'll share more next time if u want to know more.
Love is Accepting.
Acceptance is labeling someone as "okay" and having no particular desire to change them. Who they are is perfectly fine with you. You pose no condition on whether you will love them or not. This is call unconditional love. When your love IS conditional, the moment they step outside your set of conditions, love evaporates.
Love is Appreciating.
Appreciation is one step beyond acceptance. Its when your focus is on what you like about another. We look at them and feel this sweeping appreciation for who they are, their joy, their insights, their humor, their companionship, etc. When someone says they are "in love" with another, they mean their appreciation is so enormous for this person that it consumes their every thought.
Love is Wanting Another to Feel Good.
We want those we love to be happy, safe, healthy, and fulfilled. We want them to feel good in all ways, physically, mentally and emotionally.
